I’ll admit it’s a bit ridiculous.
When I’m planning a birthday party for my kids, I’ll send the invitation out well in advance. In fact, I’ll send out notice so many weeks in advance, even wedding invites don’t get mailed that early.
I was never sure whether I was doing the right thing. What is the etiquette on kids’ birthday party invitations? How much notice do you need to give? Kids these days are busy—over scheduled, even—so if you want your child’s friends to attend you’ve got to give parents ample notice, right?
My son was recently invited to a party by a mom who emailed parents a week in advance. One week! I realize that not everyone is a planner. Parents are busy, too. But with one week notice, my son is already busy. I tried to re-jig his schedule so he could be with his friends but was unable to back out of a previous commitment. Now I’m disappointed he has to miss out.
Birthday parties aren’t just a chance to eat cake and get a loot bag. They are an opportunity to bond with classmates and solidify friendships. They are a chance to gain independence and try something fun.
I’m not going to make a big deal of this situation, but it did make me wonder how much notice is appropriate for a kid’s birthday party. There are no rules, so every parent is entitled to make their own decisions. My opinion is that parents should give at least six weeks notice. What do you think?