I’m getting married, as you know. But there’s one issue that keeps cropping up: what do we do with our kids?
This wasn’t an issue the first time around—I didn’t have any kids then. Now that I’m getting married for a second time, I’m in a different position. Kids don’t typically get the chance to attend their parents’ wedding, so I want to make it fun and special for them.
I was thinking my boys could walk me down the aisle, but I don’t want to risk offending my dad. I want my nieces and nephews on both sides to walk down the aisle, too, yet some might be too little to handle the task. One of my kids is refusing to wear a suit. I agree, they look uncomfortable, and they have zippers, tags and stiff fabric, so I can’t blame him. At the same time, I can’t let them wear shorts and a t-shirt to my wedding.
There are other things to think about, too. I wonder if our kids will have the patience to sit through a ceremony. How will they do at a sit-down dinner? And how will they behave if they stay up late for the party?
It’s not a day in which I’ll be able to lecture them about table etiquette. I can’t afford to get any stains on my dress. I also won’t be able to leave the party to read them a book and put them to bed, as I usually do. I also won’t be able to manage any exhaustion-related tantrums.
I’m thinking we’ll need a babysitter to help with our kids at the wedding. Or maybe we’ll have to hold the party at a hotel so they can go to bed when they’re tired.
The dilemma is stressing me out. Maybe I’m overthinking things. By the time I get married they will be a year older. They will forget about their vow not to wear a suit. They will have more patience. Eat without staining everything around them. Dance until a later hour.
Has anyone had to deal with this before? How did it go. I’d love any advice.