Four-year-old Prince George began school in London earlier this month and the British press were interested in his new school's policy that discourages kids from having a best friend.
The policy is meant to ensure everyone is included and treating others with kindness. That also involves ensuring birthday party invitations aren’t given out in class unless everyone is invited.
I’m not quite sure why this made headlines, at least in terms of the birthday party invitation aspect. Doesn’t this make sense across the board? Even if it’s not a school policy, it’s just the right thing to do.
I hate when my kids come home without a birthday party invitation when others received one in class. Or when kids talk about their parties in class and my kids realize they weren’t included. Sometimes moms will post about their child’s parties on social media and I’ll realize we didn’t get an invite either.
I’m not offended, but I’m an adult and I know how hard it can be to be all-inclusive, manageable and cost-effective when it comes to parties.
If I’m not inviting the entire class, which I only did when my kids were in kindergarten, I’ll send the invitation to select parents by email. I’ll also explain to my kids they shouldn’t talk about their party at school so nobody else is hurt.
As for having a best friend, there’s definitely comfort in having someone you rely on at school, but I also encourage my kids to play with lots of different children and to include them all in games at recess. How would they feel if they were excluded, I ask. They seem to understand.
Does your child have a best friend? And how do you manage birthday party invitations? Do you hand them out secretly in class or invite everyone? Do share!